Blasphamy- By Tehmina Durrani

Hi All
After reading Tehmina Durrani's autobiography- The feudal Lord, i always appreciated her style of writing and also the women's frank and open use of words to describe her life. Blasphamy, with an attractive cover of painting(by the author herself), was a tempting offer.
When one reads about Heer, her life and sufferings at the cost of poverty, and her "Pir Sain" husband, i ask her- woman- since when have you become so weak? Agreed, as a woman, you are always made to sacrifice your happiness, your comforts, but not to this extend. How can a woman tolerate all this from a man, even though he would be your husband. What would have happened if she would have broken those chains? She chose to be a slave and also a culprit in joining her husband in his evil practices- just fearing his annoyance, his beatings. Why couldnt you muster the courage to run away? What kind of security does a woman have with such a man? She is weak, i understand, but its also a feeling of mind. When one decides to be strong, there can be no stopping. You have to face the world boldly. But is it really difficult? There are compromises on both sides of the world- with the man and without that man. But when comparing the sacrifices and compromises Heer made with Pir Sain, I am sure she would have been happier had she run away. There are compromises in all relations, in all circumstances, and new ones everyday. We must face life boldly. Only if one respects herself, will the world respect you.
I wish these true writings by women like Tehmina Durrani change the attitude of Women towards themselves. Its very important that she understands the right and wrong, and makes a decision with what is right. As far as compromises ans sacrifices are concerned, lets share the burden of these with men too. IF YOU DECIDE SO, NO ONE CAN STOP YOU FROM LIVING RESPECTFULLY.
Tehmina Durrani in her writings beautifully describes torture against women, as she herself had been subjected to it in her earlier years. Such great women should also work for the upliftment of the women who are suffering and also, ready to leap into fire to give others comforts. We must change their ideology!